Why children bite
Why children bite?
Small children bite for several reasons, and all can be shown to agree that it is not acceptable behavior. It is therefore important that the child will be guided towards a more socially appropriate way of expressing themselves.
When biting children?
It is normal that a certain percentage of children in a period biting as a way of expressing themselves. There is not that there is anything wrong with the child or the parents - it is just with.
Over the first 1-1 ½ years of life experience that much through the mouth. There tasted, tested and experimented with everything by putting it in his mouth. There chewing and biting. Look around the room. Many of the things you can see, you know instinctively how to taste, feel on the tongue, and how they will be biting in. You know, because you also have 1 year off and tasted the world. During this period, the toddler also finds the bite out of sheer love: Oh, how I love you, Mom, you're ready to eat. HAPS!
When the child is between 1 ½ and 3 years, he / she bites most often as a way of communicating. It can be frustration or despair or to gain control over the situation. Children at this age are still very driven by their impulses and yet difficult to mitigate them in advance. Since they lack the sophisticated verbal language, they must communicate in some other way. HAPS!
We like to be over when the child reaches kindergarten age. But of course powerlessness, anger and frustration felt and occur throughout life. We just get better and better to express ourselves socially acceptable in these situations and communicate without aggression. If children river, hitting or kicking, it is advantageous to transfer following in those situations too.
How do we solve it?
Children, who bite, also need care. Do not scold loudly, but tell with a certain tone of voice, that it is not ok. Let the child feel your immediate reaction of fright and to stop.
Is it a small child who bites of love or to experiment, this is often enough.
Is it a little bigger child from 1 ½ -3 years that bites in anger or frustration, must often more. Here we are talking about, the child is still in the early stages of learning social interaction, and here is the power of example an important educational factor.
Never as an adult bite again, as it only confirms that is it okay to use aggression as communication. Also, do not insensitive tone and words that are hard - what we call the bite of each other. View instead of your own way to communicate how you want them to talk together.
It would be a good idea to help the child by guiding him to a way of communicating. It should always be in the moment, the child learns best of. Young children do not get much out of the rear conversations or preventive lectures on good behavior.
When you can see that he is going to put about to bite another child, do the following to help him with a more appropriate initiative: Say for example, Stop Peter. Add to loving one arm between him and the other child, so both your body language and your words signal stop. Would you like to play with the red car? Peter nods. Try asking Tobias, if you can borrow it. Has Peter language so he can ask himself, he will probably try it; otherwise you lend him words and ask on his behalf. If Tobias will not loan the car out, you can help Peter to see the possibilities in another car. Remember to confirm the desired behavior with a smile and a Yes, like that.
It will probably be necessary to repeat these episodes even many times with different themes before Peter has learned to go into the conflict itself and solve it in a good way. It requires special patience and forbearance from the adults; it must be repeated again and again. This is about traffic laws in the community and should therefore also be taught in the community. To isolate the child as a penalty or period of reflection does not contribute to new skills and development in the age group we're talking about. Practice like the same way with the children who are exposed to bites, so they learn to say stop.
From around the age of 2 years can be expected that more children can consciously learn empathy, that is, compassion and empathy for others. It cannot yet be expected that children themselves can think of the consequences of their own actions, for example, that it hurts the other being bitten. Empathy development is aided by the fact that the adults watching shows with body language and verbalize to the child, what other shows of feelings and thoughts. For example, Did you see that, Peter? Lily fell and hurt her knee. She is sad. Come on, we comfort her or See, Tobias, Peter will be glad that you lend him the red car . Both children will here feel seen, and their feelings are acknowledged being called. They also receive information about each other, so they can learn to identify how others respond to their initiatives. It is an important part of human interaction, so that we can reconcile us one after the other.
Consider the external environment
Children can react differently at home and institution. Your child is out, it is necessary to cooperate to solve the problem. Take a clarifying conversation: What do you do at home, and what do they do in the institution? What are the attitudes of the problem and its solution?
Relying on experiences, as mentioned before, a child is often express frustration. All that one cannot but would like when you are a child gives occasional periods of frustration. It is very energy intensive to develop in the fast pace that is when you are a child, and frustration threshold is lower if you are pressured or stressed. Consider whether there are things in daily life that are stressful for your child. It can be both in family life and the institution, and try to change what you have been aware of.
Children, who bite, often come into a vicious circle with lots of negative attention. Remember to provide good and loving attention, and keep the good mood. Take advantage of the opportunities for positive contact. Eye contact and shared focus on what captures the child's interest, fill you both with joy and love of life. Turn stroller, so the child can see you when you're out and go. Talk about what you can see together.