Parenting a teenager is a very challenging work, and when it comes to the age of 13-16, kids seem to be more aggressive. All parentsface problems with their children, and you should understand that most of these problems appear because of emotional state and changes yourteenageris going through. This article provides you with 4 basic teenagerproblems and their possible solutions .
Problem # 1
Youteenagerstays out late and doesn’t listen to your curfew. It is 11, and your daughter promised to get back from that party at 10.30. She rejects your calls and seems not to respect you anymore.Parentingher became almost impossible. Why does she do it?
Before insisting on respect, carry out some research because you might be slightly unreasonable. Call you child’s friends’parentsand ask them what time they are expecting their kid to be home. Give ateenagera 10-15-minute grace period, and if he/she defies that, you should set up ground rules like staying at home at night, no friends or Internet. If you have feeling that yourteenagerdoesn’t feel happy at home, try to talk to him/her and find out what is going on. When you make certain rules, you should show that you mean it, otherwise bluffing won’t work kids will call you on it.
It seems that you child hates you. One second he/she is very sweet, then, in some moments they start treating you in not a good way, snickering at your suggestions and discounting your every single word. Well,parentinghas never been easy. However, if you try to look closer, you will see that you have already been there. Remember the toddler time and how he/she always said NO at all your suggestions? It’s practically the same, but now he/she just rolls his/her eyes in disgust.
Certainly, as any other parent, you’ll be hurt by such treatment, however, don’t be too upset because teenagers still need theirparentswhatever they say, but they don’t admit it. As a parent, try to stay calm. But nobody is saying that a teen is allowed to be nasty to you, and if this happens you will have to put some behaviour standards into action. Tell theteenagerthat if he/she can’t say anything nice, they should just be silent. Let them know that you are always there for them, no matter what they do and how they treat you. This will help to renew your relationships.
Problem # 3
Your daughter likes spending time in doubtful companies where all smoke or drink alcohol. Or your son likes to hang out with weird noisy dudes. What to do: stay silent or say something?
Criticizing your teenager’s friend might be quite offensive to him/her, because kids are often too attached to friends that it’s like you criticize them directly. Even if their friend wear strange clothes, have piercing, or play violent games, they are still decent and your kids. On the one hand, if you know that your son smokes and drinks, uses bad language and skips school, you should be strict towards him and have a serious talk. Tell how much you are concerned about yourteenager, however, you mustn’t forbid him anything. Don’t hesitate to ask for professional help: nowadays there are many family counselors and psychologists. On the other hand, if your child hangs out with guys from a bad company, but is independent and always stands his ground, encourage him and say how much you love him.
Problem # 4
Recently your daughter started to shout and slam the door more often than she used to, every petty thing sets her off. The more you help, through no fault of yours, the worse the situation gets. Ateenagerusually feels things intensely, that’s why things that are no big deal to you may seem very important to her.
Parentsseem to misunderstand theirteenager and don’t pay too much attention to him. This results in general misunderstanding, and ateenagerstops telling them everything. If, for instance, the most important problem of your daughter is that her best friend goes out with a boy she likes, be supportive and understanding.Parentingis the most important thing. And if you son claims that girl should be with rather with him than with that annoying bully, take it seriously and prepare advice. Listen to his/her problems, sympathize and try to put yourself in his/her place.