Parenting Advice for Toddlers Parents part 2
How to handle your toddler's tantrums.Do not surrender.
A child should not be given what he demands with the help of a tantrum. Otherwise a tantrum can become the only method for achieving what he wants. When he calms down try to explain to him that you do not like the way he behaves.
Do not lose your nerve, be angry, and scream at your child while he is in tantrums.It is absolutely useless. He would not listen to you anyway. Try to ignore the hysterics. You can couch your child if he behaves not so violent, it will enable you to avoid any traumas. Be completely calm and impartial. From the age of two, a child can be left alone in the room for a couple of minutes to calm down.
Try to redirect your child's attention.When the hysterics is at its highest point, the child does not hear you at all. When his shrieks are not so loud, you can try to switch your child's attention on something interesting for him. This method can be also used for preventing hysterics.
Be attentive to your toddler, try to analyze what exactly caused a tantrum and try to avoid it next time. It is better to keep off tantrums. If you are at home, try to remove all dangerous and valuable objects from the child's eyeshot. For example, when your child and you eat together, do not leave unpleasant for a toddler food on the table. This will greatly diminish the quantity of conflicts. At the first signs of toddler's tense mood try to redirect his attention on something that he likes.
We hope that these pieces of advice will help you to handle your toddler's tantrums .
Aggressive Behavior in Toddlers.
Primarily aggressive behavior is a model of behavior already seen by a child. Some mothers complain: "My child fights, screams, takes away toys of other children Who has taught him to do that?" and after some time when a toddler picks up some dirty stick or something else, she screams at him and even spanks. This is that very example that she gives to her child. At the playground a toddler sees how older children take away toys from smaller ones, fight and scream. Children are always in search, they try new and new ways of behavior. The following pieces of advice will help you to handle the aggressive behavior of your toddler.
Watch yourself. Your own aggressive behavior is a bad example for imitation, which your toddler will certainly try to copy.
Restrain aggressive behavior of other children towards your child. Your child is yet very small and he cannot handle aggressive behavior of other children objectively. Moreover, if not to intervene in such a situation, it can result in children's injuries. Your child should see that you do not approve of such behaviour. Always react equally seriously with disapproval on your toddler's aggressive behavior.
Even if your toddler begins fighting with you or some other person jokingly, do not laugh. Do not think it is a comedy. Try to be serious and explain to your child that he should not do it. Now he just tries different models of behavior, and if they see your approval, he will further apply them in various situations. This can lead to unpredictable results, when it will be hard for you to control the situation and your toddler's behavior.
Weaning a child from the pacifier
What is sucking of a nipple? From birth time a mother gives her child a pacifier to satisfy his sucking instinct. Then, when an infant starts moving, a mother gives him a pacifier so as he cannot put all sorts of nasty things in his mouth. When an infant is weaned away from breast-sucking, a pacifier can become an object of comforting. Afterwards sucking of a pacifier transforms into a habit. How to wean your child from a pacifier?
Try to redirect his attention from a pacifier to an item he likes a lot.
Read a book before bedtime, tell a story, or watch his favorite cartoon. It may help him to go to bed without a pacifier.
Explain your child that he is going to stop using the pacifier because he is a "big boy" now. Create a plan that will work with your child. Invent “a pacifier story” with some reasons why he needs to give it away. You can explain to your child that a pacifier has been lost. That some baby needs his pacifier because he is very small. Or a fairy will take a pacifier away so that a child could grow up faster. Collect all the pacifiers and "give away" together.Show your child your love. Remember, that an infant needs a pacifier to calm down. Thus, let him feel your love more often cradle him, kiss, tell him what a good boy he was today. Remember, that if a child is not ready to put away a pacifier, all the above advices can be ineffective, and you should not speed up the time.