Eye contact, smile, touch and emotional care - all this is vital for the infant child's survival. In the same way, as the need for food, the child needs contact and interaction with his parents.
For all children is that they need to be seen and met as they now are. To be seen, met and understood is important for the young child's development. When the baby cries, tells the environment that something must be done, and the mother takes the milk out, if she interprets crying as hunger. But it is equally important that parents react when a child needs to contact - they understand when it needs and is ideal for eye contact and proximity. For only in interaction with other people, the child may develop.
The child is from birth interested in contact. It considers the intensive mother's and father's faces, her / his gestures, and it has an intense attention to the parent, while the body is at rest. This behavior is mom or dad to smile and talk to the child, then the child to be active, move arms and legs, open and close your hands and mimic mother's and father's facial movements. This dialogue can wave back and forth, but after a while the child will need a break and pulls the switch. It turns away and yawns and closes his eyes. If the children understand and respect the child's signals needed break, the child after a while come back and resume dialogue. If the child's limit is not understood and respected, it will become restless, tense, incoherent and weeping.
The baby's senses
The perception of what an infant may have changed a lot in recent years. In the past it was thought that a child was born as a helpless, passive, anti-social creature, but today we know that a newborn is able to communicate and interact with other people from birth.
Both the sense of hearing, taste and smell function from birth, in fact, right from the fetal stage. We have carried out studies showing that a newborn can recognize his mother's voice from other voices that a newborn can differentiate and prefer its mother's milk over other women's milk. These properties and the delicate intense registration using the senses are created and strengthen the important ties to be forged between mother and child. The baby experience and respond to touch. Communication channels are then ready from the start.
These communication channels are stimulated. You have to see, understand and respond to the child's desire and need to talk to ensuring the development of the child's ability to enter into relationships with other people. This early contact and stimulation of communication ensures that the child can develop emotionally.
An infant prefer the human face, that is to see the face eyes, mouth movements, facial expressions and the living face, rather than other visual effects such. pictures, toys, televisions and the like. The first few months have baby just to look at their parents' faces to learn, experience and develop. Only later can toys be meaningful to the child.
The baby's language
Imitation, then the child to imitate the adult's face, can already occur when the baby is born. The child will imitate the adults at even reach out your tongue. Overstate the its mouth moves when you talk to the child, raises his eyebrows and use more gestures than you might otherwise do, the infant pointed mouth, shape lips, lifting the eyebrows and on the way trying to imitate the face, it looks at - that communicate . Baby uses mother's and father's faces as a mirror. When mom or dad mimics baby's face, the child will have an experience of being understood, to be seen as it is.
Social competence has baby from the start. The child is willing to have social contact, and from the beginning it reacts differently to things and people. At the meeting with a person shows the child a characteristic behavior, he/ she takes things, moves, opens and closes his/ her hands, forms the mouth and trying to make sounds. Meetings baby thing seems this behavior is not. The child distinguishes therefore between people and things and prefers the human touch.
The smile is an important social function. It binds people together, and it's hard not to smile back when someone smiles at one. Baby's first smile is a mechanical - the smile only with your mouth and smile can look like a drawing of the face. During the first month begins smile to a more social nature and occur more spontaneously in situations of contact and community. Gradually develops smile, and the child smiles differently to different people, especially the close caregivers get more smiles from the child, which helps to bond.
The media reports frequently on children who have been neglected, for families who have not been able to take care of their children, and we will be with horror informed about the atrocities committed against children. It has been perceived neglect as assault, abuse and lack of physical care. But neglect includes failure of the child's emotional, social and learning needs. If these needs are not met, if the parents are unable to care for the child's emotions and social needs, it is neglect. This is about parents who do not engage emotionally positive in their child. They are not emotionally available to the child, and they fail to empathize with the child's needs - not seeing the child as it is. Children who receive food and material goods instead of love and attention, suffering, becomes invisible to themselves and do not develop a healthy emotional life. Severe neglect affects child development.
Therefore it is very important to remember the emotional needs and the importance of talking to her baby, eye contact, smile, touch and see when and how the baby fancy this important contact.
For all children is that they need to be seen and met as they now are.
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