Many people may remember stories about running away, either that they planned or even thought about in childhood. Most often, children plan their running away after they are 8 y.o. This may be a mere desire to change their setting, an ideological desire to travel and see other places, or simply an escape from terrible conditions that surround a child. Furthermore, we are going to discuss the details about causes and possible solutions of this problem.
Running away: causes
A child is unhappy with life conditions in a family
A child experiences physical or moral violence, nourishing his anger in regards to parents daily, and strengthens the desire to get away from hated care.
Indifference of parents to the child’s life may also be a cause of running away from the family. Thus, for example, in families where parents are dependent on alcohol and drugs, and do not take care of children at all, don’t bring them up, children look for better independent lives, because they can’t find support, care, and love in their parents.
Constant pressure, strict code of rules, and strict punishments may also cause a desire in a child to practice running away.
Resentment at parents
When it seems to a child that he is not loved, not cared for, and completely ignored, resentment at parents develops . A child tries to attract parents’ attention and expresses his protest through threats of running away.
Resentment at siblings
If there are a few children in a family and they humiliate each other, this may lead to serious psychological problems, nervous stress, and a desire to run away from home.
Poor relationship with peers
If a child experiences constant pressure from the side of the peers and doesn’t find support and help for difficult situations within his family, he may decide that the only way to solve the problem is to run away from it.
If a child doesn’t do well at school and the parents are too demanding, a child is criticized and punished physically for low grades, then when a child gets a low grade once again, he has no desire to come back home.
Running away: how to prevent
Communicate with your child
If you speak with your child, listen to him attentively. You are getting a great opportunity to get to know a lot of interesting things about your child. You can also develop a close connection of mutual understanding and trust with each other.
Get acquainted with your child’s friends
If your child spends much time outside home with friends, try to learn more about what they do during their free time. Many times a child runs away because they are encouraged by friends. This is why your child, who doesn’t have significant problems in the family, may allow himself to be influenced by a friend who has these problems.
Help fix the problems
Don’t ignore your child if he asks you for help. Always offer your help in situations that are difficult for your child. Remember, something that you view as a trifle may be a serious catastrophe in your child’s life.
What should a parent do if his/her child actually ran away?
Inform the police about the child’s absence.
Get as much information as possible about child’s last actions and plans.
Call all friends, acquaintances, and relatives.
Look through the child’s personal things and papers.
Read messages in forums and social networking services if the child participates in them.
Address private detectives if means allow.
Add information about the child at special sites for the search of lost children, where volunteers can join the child’s search.
Dear parents, be watchful in order to prevent your child’s running away. One boy answered his parents question about what they can do to make him never run away again with: “Simply, don’t let me do this!”